A Bigly Thing To Cover My In-Between Hair

I have to try almost everything, fashion-wise.  Sometimes I try stuff on when I already know I won’t be making it a staple of my wardrobe. Suzanne’s newly purchased sun hat is one of those items. Plaid, purple Bow Tie o’ the Day is rather surprised I took the time and opportunity to put this floppy hat on my head. It is sooooo not anything close to any hat style in my hat quiver. And the size o’ the flop! I don’t even know what to comment about that.

But I’m pleased Suzanne likes the hat well enough to give it a home. This afternoon, I took it upstairs to put it away in the closet for her, and I thought, “Why the Hell-en not at least try it on?” My verdict on this headwear is a thumbs down, as I suspected it would be. On the other hand, I don’t remember a bow tie I’ve put on which I didn’t want to adopt. But if you don’t try on a diversity of styles, you might miss what suits you perfectly. Something unexpected might feel like it accentuates the authentic you.

I’m amazed at how different our like’s and dislike’s can be– whether it’s about fashion, food, pro football teams, and on and on. I can’t explain why our tastes are so all-over-the-place within a circle of friends or within our own families. For example, I’m into neckwear, while most of my peeps prefer jewelry– as far as fashion accessories go. I like to eat only the crust around the edges of a pizza, along with the toppings, while most people eat the entire slice. I’m a decades-long Seattle Seahawks fan. Suzanne rolls with the Chicago Bears.

And there’s no logical reason that any of these things should make us feel one way or the other anyway. Doesn’t the bottom pizza crust taste the same as the edge crust? Why collect things that wrap around your neck? Have I ever even been to Seattle? No.

It’s not just that we differ in our preferences. We sometimes don’t even care about something our best friend can’t live without. My bro-in-law, Gary, thinks Kurt Busch and NASCAR walk on water, and I think, “I’d rather turn right.”

Sometimes our tastes are unexplainable even to ourselves. For example, I like ice cream. I like chocolate chips. I like marshmallows. However, I abhor chocolate chips/shavings/chunks in my ice cream. I can’t abide marshmallows in it either. WTFlip?! I dunno how to figure that one out. I’m fine with a swirl of chocolate syrup in/on my ice cream. I’m fine with marshmallow creme in/on it.

As the cliché says: It is what it is. Such minor things are not worth going to war with oneself– or anybody else– about. Embrace your you-ness, however inexplicable and weird you might be, even to yourself. Your you-ness is what I and Mr. Rogers like about you. 🙃

Arrow v. Whim? Arrow AND Whim? Arrowhim.

Bow Tie o’ the Day and I are practicing our scary faces for Halloween, even though it’s still September. Clearly, we need to work on more looks o’ horror. We woke up this morning and simply decided we wanted to give in to our whim to wear our orange and black today.

It is said that we should follow our arrows. I agree with that advice. I also believe in indulging our whims, To me, your arrow is usually a big, abstract, directional kind of concept– like where you want to go in your career; how you want your family to be; your personal goals and values.

Whims– on the other hand– are very specific things that add panache and wonder to your life. They should celebrate your individuality and give you singular joy. It’s usually  best if your whims reflect your arrow, but sometimes you need a whim to be so out-there that it knocks your arrow’s arc into a better path than you aimed your arrow in the first place.

Both things matter. I do have to say that, although I’m a dang good see-er o’ the expansive picture o’ The Big Arrow, I’ve become quite wrapped up in committing as many whims as I can at this point in my life. Hey, folks! We’re all running low on years.

The best way I can explain it is that we spend so much of our adulthood making sure we’re following our Big Arrow (family, career, education, etc.), and then at some point we realize our Big Arrow’s traveling just fine without our constant fussing over it. Ain’t really no knockin’ it off its path now. We don’t need to worry quite so much about the trajectory of the Big Arrow we’ve tended so well for years. The aim of our Big Arrow is true. It has become who we are. It is the sum of our lives. We decided its path long ago and adjusted it as needed. We we can now use the auto pilot we’ve achieved through decades of living our Big Arrow. Our autopilot can do its job to get us to our desired cosmological destination.

Now’s the time for whims. We should “whim around.” We should have whimsical attitudes. We should do things in a “whimmerly” way. We should exercise our “whimmers”. We should expand our “whimmerosity.” We should do “whimmerrific” activities. I could continue to come up with oodles more words o’ whimsy– real and made-up. But you get the idea.

I am my own Whim-meister.  You are your own Whim-meister. Play on. 🤡 😜